No one can make you feel inferior with out your consent – Eleanor RooseveltIt happens to us all. You can be feeling like you are on the path with your writing one minute and then BOOM! you feel like you have nothing to write the next. Where in the world does this come from? You and I have this distinct ability to be our on worst critic. Sometimes it can serve you well. But most of the time this critic just makes you feel inferior and not good enough. For me, the beginning of the year I really felt that I was ready but then when the tasks came upon me I hadn’t left room for the unexpected. I guess how could I right, when I didn’t know it was coming. However, I jammed my scheduled so full that I didn’t allow for any “breathing” room so I was left feeling, well, inferior. But like the quote above states, no one make me feel this way. I mean it wasn’t like I wasn’t accomplishing tons of tasks I needed to do but I just was not able to do all of them. Well, who in the heck can anyway. Also, it was my doing that I didn’t create some “breathing” room however, even still the world didn’t implode or my house didn’t disappear. I just needed to slow down and take things one step at a time. And you know what, once I shut the door on my inner critic, I was able to sit down and enjoy my writing again and found time to write an article and working on my upcoming books. Now having a detailed schedule, setting appointments and managing your time is good practice however, there are times when things just go WONKY and that does not mean you are inferior. It just means things didn’t come to be the way you thought they were. But this doesn’t have to open up the doors to your inner critic coming out and having a party at your expense. You just tell your inner critic you are not having a conversation about what you are not able to get done and then concentrate one at a time to those things you can get done. Just remember what Eleanor says, “Noone can make you feel inferior without your consent.” So next time you are feeling lack luster about your writing, just remember you are allowing your inner critic to take over. Give yourself a break and get back to writing when your mindset is ready again.
January 21st, 2011 by Teresa